Why Couples Fight

Why do couples argue?  Is it because of money, kids, sex, the in-laws, or whether the house is straightened up or not?  Or are there deeper reasons that can help us understand and disengage from arguing with the one we love most? In this post, I want to describe to...

All Is Well

In every moment, each of us has a basic decision to make about our well-being.  No matter how terrible, worrisome, or even frightening the circumstances are, the question we are called on to answer is whether we will face it with calmness, assurance, and knowing that...

The Shadow and Light in Yourself

There is no shadow without the light. We know this to be true when we see a shadow cast on the ground.  I believe that this aphorism is true for each of us humans as well. When we look at ourselves, we all too often see our faults and think of ourselves as inadequate...

Why Do We Complain?

Human beings love to complain.  Why is this?   After all, we want to be happy, but complaining generally keeps us in a bad mood. There are a half dozen reasons that we complain, and the bad news is that two-thirds of them keep us feeling badly.  Even complaining for a...

Do You Worry Instead of Sleep?

Do you worry instead of sleeping at night?  Do you have difficulty turning off your mind and lie in bed with concerns about the previous day or the day coming up?  This is one of the most common complaints I hear from clients.  Their thoughts race while they are in...

Find the Good in All Things

Finding the good in all things is something that can transform anything and everything in life.  I am amazed when I run across people who have the ability to do this, without being Pollyannaish.  They are teachers to me, and I wish to pass on their wisdom to you. Let...