It Doesn’t Matter What You Do

Life has a lot to offer when we stay in the right frame of mind.  This is the story of how I came to understand this, and I coined the phrase: It doesn’t matter what you do. It matters how you do it. Pressures in life make us think that we have to do so many things. ...

Have You Ever Said, “Why Me?”

When things are not going your way, have you ever asked yourself, “Why me?”  Well, years ago, a saying came to me about this question, “Why me?”  I’ll share it with you today: People say, “Why me?” And then they don’t answer the question. We all have said, “Why me?” ...

To Love Another and To Love Oneself

For Valentine’s Day, it is time to talk of love.  What does it mean to love another and how can we better love ourselves? I have heard that love is a decision, that it is a commitment, and it has been called many other things.  But I think love involves a way of...

Never Make a “To Do” List Again

What is on your “to do” list today?  Some people are avid makers of “to do” lists, whereas others depend on keeping what they want to do in their heads.  Regardless of your style, today I tell you, “Never make a ‘to do’ list again!” How can I say this?  Even I...

When a Loved One Dies

Recently, someone I have known for a long time died.  I draw on this experience as well as my knowledge as a therapist to address any similar occasion you may have had. When a loved one dies, many thoughts and feelings arise.  Grief, disbelief, loneliness, regrets,...